We all have own challenges in life. They come in different forms. However, for many it seems like they are fighting the battle of life alone. they have been carrying the responsibilities on their shoulders all their life. One gentleman said that his father died when he was just 19. Somehow he completed his education and since then he is carrying off all the responsibilities. He married off his sisters also like a father and what hurts is he does not get that love in return. Whenever he asked for anything from them, they turned their face away.
Another lady said that, she started working when she was 22 to support her father (though she did not want that) and since then she has been working. She got married and she has to support her husband too. She cannot look upto someone to take care of her even when she is sick. She said that whenever she expected from anyone she got hurt.
There are many stories like this and every story is true.
We need to understand few things:
1. We all are born with different lessons to learn. Some are also born with the challenge to be independent.
2. Bigger the challenges, higher is the level of evolution soul is going through. It is like Earth is a big video game made by God and we all are different players. When we cross level I we reach to next level which is little more challenging in comparison to the previous one. We do not have conscious memory of setting up own challenges before taking birth to progress on the path of evolution. Universe supports us in learning by placing those challenges in front of us.
3. Such souls have to gather their strength more and more, have an intention to sail through it strongly rather than asking for help so that they can progress. More they would want to ask for help, more they would be turned back so that they can learn to be independent again and again.
Now, we need to look at things from another perspective:
1. There is a lack of gratitude in our upbringing. So when something is being done for us or others, we may not realize it so much. We feel we are entitled for it. Like in the above case the sisters felt that their brother had to do things for them.
2. People are there with us as per their convenience. (They will say that they would be around but to be actually there, they would have their own challenges).
3. We do not have an option. We have to travel this path. So whether we travel by crying or travel with a smile depends on us. If we learn to accept that this is how life is designed and I am incharge of my life, I have to take care of my life then the things would become easier for us.
So should we handle:
1. So mentally repeat to yourself:
I can do it
I am surrounded by love but I have to take care of myself
Its my journey and I need to travel it. If someone is there for me sometime, its a pleasure but I am good alone too. (Its not ego, it is becoming independent)
Do not expect others to be there
I love myself, I am there for myself
Be strong and believe me, just a little more strength and you will be able to overcome any challenge in life. Do not ever give up. always remember that you will be fine.
