When he was born he was always compared with his elder brother who was intelligent and was good at sports too. he was always told that he was not intelligent enough or he lacks strength and many things like that. Now, these things made him believe that he was good for nothing. He reached to self criticism mode. When he grew up, he got a job but he always lived with the mentality that he was good for nothing. Same thought process reflected in his energy and his peers also told him same thing. He wondered that here no one knows his brother and no one knows his background still everyone is saying same thing. So there is some reason behind that. When he started working on the reason, he found out how his mind is working and how things are getting affected with his thought process.
He wanted to know how he could change that. He realized few things:
1. He was always compared.
2. Everyone told him his brother’s strengths as his weaknesses but what about his own strengths?
3. If he does not know what he is good at, how would he choose that?
4. How would he love himself and accept himself when he hates himself?
5. It his is what he believes in then everyone would believe him same.
6. For others to think differently, he needs to think differently and for that its imperative that he knows himself more.
He started asking himself what he is good at?
For that he wanted to know what he loves doing? The answer was definitely not this job then what? Finally he knew, he wanted to be a cook and then everyone again made fun of him but he opened a successful restaurant.
He loved now what he was doing, what he was and people also knew him for what he was rather than what he was not.
So what needs to be done:
1. Do not believe when people are criticizing you. Its their belief.
2. Ask yourself what are your good things.
3. Tell yourself I am lovely, I am awesome
4. Be happy and be in love with yourself.
