When he was just 5 years old, his mother told him, see you cannot swim like my friend’s son! He took it very seriously and started swimming classes. But whenever he jumped into the water he felt this is not him, he cannot do it. He could never make a good swimmer and he always cried before his swimming classes. His father told him that he is not good at studies and it makes him feel embarrassed in front of his friends. He was trying his best still he could not make in studies. The child started spending time alone and stopped interacting with everyone. They always forced him saying we are your well wishers and we want your best. The child started feeling that he cannot be perfect as per his parents, so he really lacked something. The child wanted to do something in art and crafts. His parents told him that there is no future in art and craft. people cannot make money in that. The child reached to such a depressive state that parents needed external help.
Wrong things which were happening:
1.Comparing your child or yourself with anyone
2. Deciding yourself what makes it perfect
3. Ignoring own/own child’s indigenous quality
4. Forcing external behavior so much that the person/child starts feeling lonely. Ignoring self expression
After lots of discussions, parents agreed to allow child to explore what he really wanted to do. Finally the child joined painting classes and with one expression, he started expressing himself truly. He started staying happy, more interactive. He started improving in studies too. What they wanted him to be, he became that. However, in his own way.
Everyone is born perfect. Every flower is perfect. If we prune the flower, it would get damaged rather than blossoming. So accept everyone, let everyone shine own light.
