Few days back I got a call from a seventeen years old boy. He wanted to commit suicide. he said that there is nothing left in his life. It was quite moving to near from a 17 years old. I asked him what has happened and why he feels like not living any more. He said that no one loves me and no one respects me. After talking to him for sometime I realized that his confidence was all time low. He was low on self esteem and the reason was he was always compared to his elder brother. His brother was good in business, studies and was very popular in friend circle. The younger one did not get an opportunity to realize what he had in himself. His brother’s strengths were made his weaknesses.
I asked him to write all his good things, the qualities he had, all the achievements, the compliments he had received. He was supposed to write for atleast a month and daily he had to add atleast 5 things into his list. He could take his parents. teacher’s, friends or anyone’s help. He would ask and think himself also and within few days he started realizing he had achieved a lot. He had many qualities. More and more he worked on himself, more his confidence came back. After one month he said that I have so much in me and my life. It is a beautiful life. God has blessed me so much. He also said that, just because I have discovered myself, yesterday I celebrated and partied with my friends.
We all evaluate ourselves from others perspective and what others have told us. Often we pick up the negative part more and we start losing a part of ourselves. We lose self trust because we do not know ourselves. How can we trust someone if we haven’t known that person. So know yourself more and more.
Everyone has some short comings and some strengths. Its a package. It is like 24 hours have both day and night. We cannot say it is so dark or it is always light. Similarly, we need to look at ours all the sides. More and more we would start exploring self, life we would realize it has been such a beautiful journey. All the difficult times have been gifts too. Life is a celebration if we learn to celebrate it. We can sit and cry or make it a celebration. It is our choice.
