One lady used put everyone down. She would find faults in everyone and everyone used to be scared of being around her. Gradually, people started staying away from her. They would avoid meeting her. people who had no choice of avoiding her, they would do their thing and leave. Eventually she started feeling very lonely and started staying depressed.
People used to think that she thinks very high of herself and she thinks there is no one better than her and that’s why she has been putting every one down. deep own, she had many inferiority complexes and to handle them, she would try to prove herself better than everyone around. In the process, she did not realize how she was damaging everyone’s self respect and respect for herself. She felt that she was proving herself better but in reality she was losing her respect in everyone’s heart.
When she realized this, she started working on herself. But before working on her relationship with others, she had to improve her relationship with herself. So what all did she do:
She had to leave the desire to be best as this was putting lots of pressure on her. When she could not prove herself better than others, she would bring them down.
She had to stop criticizing herself for not being best. When she stopped that, her mind which was trained to find faults also stopped finding points to criticize in others.
She had to learn to accept herself the way she is and this helped her in accepting others too. Like the attitude, it’s fine. people have right to be the way they are. Even I have right to be the way I am.
She stopped comparing herself with others and others with herself one everything.
She started loving herself the way she was and this helped her in seeing everyone from a new perspective of love which eventually improved her relationships.
All this relieved lots of pressure from her head which eventually helped her in feeling lighter and better.
We need to work on our relationship with self to improve our relationship with others. We need to respect and love self and we will be able to give same to others. The way we treat self, our mind will treat others too because for our mind tere is no difference.
Be love, give love, receive love.
