We all want to be….and why not..that is the purpose of every activity on this earth, that how much joy we derive from different activities then why is it that someone says I am happy and some else is not…even if its the for the same thing? Why is it that someone is happy with a profit of 100000 per month and someone not even with 1 crore?
Now let’s take an example, you wanted a bicycle in school and felt very happy when you got it, however, you goto school and you see that your friend got a new scooty, now you feel this bicycle is of no use and you want a scooty for yourself. Suddenly the thing which was of a reason of joy for you is eroding you of that. What did change here? Your thoughts, which are under your control, however, you let them lose and have them controlled by external constraints. Result is you lose your happiness.
Moreover, we build lots of expectations from the people around us, you may question that then if we do not expect then what is the point of having a relationship? Well, look at it like this, you are playing your role, and if you shift your locus of control of happiness from self to others you are going to be unhappy, as how they think and act is not under your control, what you can control is yourself and your own thoughts.
Learn to be happy, train yourself to be happy…change your thoughts to be happy…let them be dependent only on you because if you let them circumvent you are going to suffer and you are the only reason for your unhappiness.
