The moment we are born we get gift of lots of relationship. We become someones son or daughter, brother, sister, someones nephew and the list grows as we grow. WE add friends and we add friends friends. WE add wife or husband, we add own children and there is no end. BY the time we are ready to leave, we must have known or touched thousands of lives. That’s life and that’s why we are called as social beings. We cannot live in isolation or in exile forever, even if someone is in exile, he will come come back to the habitation some time. That’s why, since the time we are born we are told to behave and think as per others. We are told, do this, do that we are told to react as per others actions. For everything we want others approvals. The funny thing is everyone expects each other to behave as per other. The most snide comment I have heard is from guys sometimes that girls dress up to attract guys. May be true for some, however, whenever we talk about a population, how can we generalise things? Anyway the point here is the people expect others to live as per them and a poor child who is born with a unique individuality is so much burdened with all this that before he can find what he actually is he becomes a puppet where his strings are being pulled by someone else. He forgets that he/she has still to work upon the most important relationship in life and that is with the self.
We need to remove the layers of dust which have settled on this relationship. These layers come wrapped in very sweet forms like love, values, duties etc etc. I am not denying that you should not do that however, amidst all this, do not forget that you also exist. You do not have to search your happiness in others happiness from you. You have the supreme right to love yourself unconditionally and be happy. You have the right to think about yourself. Once you are able to nurture this most important relationship, you will be a complete human. You will be flowing with love and happiness. AS you will be full of love and happiness, it will start spreading in every direction as you are full. If you are not full, you try to become full and the bowl will always remain empty. Keep your bowl full so that it can spread or else you will not be able to give it to others also which you think are expecting from you. How can you give it to others, when your own bowl is empty?
Look inside yourself, find out what you want and what will make you happy and why do you want that. Once you are able to nurture this with love and happiness, you will always be brimming with love and happiness.
