I was crossing the street and I saw a mother giving threats to her 4-5 years old son. If you run like this God will punish you! Her threat made me look at her and her child. Her child looked at her for a second and then he started running again. She was about to spurt threat again I asked her why is she trying to create fear in her own child? She said that she can’t control him and she needs to. But is this the way? What is the purpose? To have him listen to you and you think the only way is by giving him threats. So he would feel fear but for how long? After some time, he would realize that God is not punishing him and then he would never listen to you. But because it is in his deep psychology, he would harbor this fear and he would fear God. But because he can’t stop himself from so many things just because of fear, he would pile up guilt too! It leads to lots of aggression. too and also he would try to pass on that guilt to others. She was surprised and said that this is what is happening exactly! He tries to give threats to me too. He would say you would get punished if you do not do this. But then how do I manage him?
Make him realize and talk to him. It may take little longer time in the beginning and may be you would have to be more patient with him but after some time, he would start understanding him better. Tell him that why you do not want him to run fast in streets. He may get hurt or there might be some vehicle which might hurt him. But ask questions and let him see your love rather than feel fear! We need to ask them questions on every thing. We need to train our children to be happy and grow with love rather than fear. because with fears inside, we would try to over power others too because we fear that they will over power us. Do we want such society? If we want a society of love and happiness, we need to train our children on love and happiness rather than fear. She realized and she accepted. That time her child did not listen to her but after few attempts he did and he started changing after that.
We all need to take care of this aspect. Do not give guilt or fear to anyone. Give love and you wil; see the change. Love heals. Love brings abundance. Love makes everything beautiful.
