Few days back I met a person who said, he wanted so many things and did not have and this thing is frustrating him, he is considering himself as failure. I asked ok let’s see which concern he wants to handle first, # 1, he is frustrated, # 2 He looks himself as a failure, # 3 he did not get what he wanted in life. So we began from his concern regarding failures. He said I have not been able to live my life in any special way, so its a failure and it is eroding me of my confidence, I asked haven’t you been living your life honestly and taking care of your family, his answer was positive, then he fronted me saying but for that also his family had to lend him money, I said so what, haven’t you returned that money, he said yes, so where is he a loser? We all help each other and we all grow. That’s why we have society, we have family. One concern answered. Second was he was frustrated as he did not get what he wanted. We all have a list of things we want and may be we get some and we do not get some. However, how can you let it change you. This thing was never there with you. You built some dreams that if I wud have this, I would live like this, I would do that etc etc. You did not get that and you feel your plans are shattered. However, if you look at it closely, there is nothing which you have lost, you still have whatever you had and the only thing which has changed is your thoughts which are frustrating you. How can you let something erode you of your happiness which was never there with you. Second thing answered. Third thing he did not get what he wanted. Its a simple thing, we all get what we want, however, we focus on not having something instead of having that. You want a car, so your focus is on I do not have a car, instead of this if you focus on I would have a car soon, you would have it. You need to change your thoughts in positive direction to turn your desires to reality. This mother existence wants to answer all your desires and it does, just that you need to communicate that to her in correct manner. Do not focus on what you do not have, focus on what you will have.
Lots of things we build inside our mind which have no relevance and we complicate our lives with those baseless things as we complicate our thoughts. These things are baseless and erodes us of our happiness. You can make your life as simple as you want just by understanding your ownself.
