Once I was in a meeting and the person asked me one question which I come across many a times that what is the biggest reason of unhappiness and the low self confidence in any person and the answer is same to both. What would others think of me? How can anyone think that I am bad or I do not have this…or that inside me…well…let others be free to choose you or reject you…they have their own outlook toward life and their own thoughts…everyone cannot accept you and everyone will not reject you like you cannot accept everyone and you would want to retain that freedom…so let others also be free to choose you….but what they think of you does not matter because that is not real you…everyone builds own thoughts over the time and they evaluate others as per that. You have no control over what others would say and do so why do you bother yourself over something about which you cannot do anything ? What you can control is your reaction toward them and your best reaction is not to be affected by what others say because that’s not you. They do not live with you 24/7, they are not inside your body, so how can they know about you as much as you know about yourself…if you know this that they do not know about you as much as you know yourself, how can you let it effect you? Do not worry about what others would think as no one has time to do that and someone does it does not matter. What matters is what you think of yourself and after that you will not have to justify yourself to anyone..you would be free and others would be free from you too
