We have so many expectations from people around us and they have from us. And the biggest question asked is, what is the point in having a relationship if you cannot expect! Well..we are told that we shall not expect if we do not want to be miserable but no one taught us how not to expect. So we need to work upon that. Now we cannot stop expecting so we need to shift the point of expectation. Shift it to yourself and realize anyway this is the only thing you can do. How do you feel when other expect from you and you can’t fulfil, that person would get hurt and that is his choice, so how do you feel, binded, suffocated, imprisoned and then frustrated so what happens you stop feeling being free. Few days back, one girl came to me and said that she feels bad that she cant fulfil her husband’s expectations, and I asked her how does she know her husband has all these expectations from her she said I think so, what we think we expect we think others expect same from us and then she realised she had been hurting herself without a reason as her husband never expected thing from her. She was binding herself and her husband both. So if you feel hurt and binded even the other person would feel same so you need to let the other person be free. Once you set the otherone free, you would be free yourself too. God created s and gave us free will, so that we can exercise that and he never interferes in that. What do we do, we want to interfere in that free will and we get hurt and hurt others too. Just imagine if you would not have got a free will there would be no difference between us and animals as we would just be living as per someone else’s directions, whatever we have achieved it is because of the free will which we have got then who are we to interfere in that free will of others by loading or expectations?
