So many times I meet people who are distressed in their relationships. Who complaint to me that their wife has not been taking care of them or husband is involved with someone else. They keep expecting when the so called relationship was over long back that she did not think of the time we spent together. He did not take care of me after we separated. When I say why are you even expecting, that when he was moving out he had to think of you and your emotions or why do you expect that if you are taking care of someone, the other person also has to take care of you. The first question which pops up is then what is the point of having a relationship, why do we have a relationship then. Well, you have a relationship because you wanted one and when you are expecting, its your need not the need of the relationship, that is why every relationship is different otherwise every relationship would be same. You have different expectations as you have different needs and these needs give you expectations. We take care of our loved ones and we want them to take care of us same way or else we feel they do not love us enough.
Moreover, we hurt ourselves when our expectations are not met and we blame others for that. Who is expecting, you, who is getting hurt, its you and then who is responsible for the entire mess in your life, it is you…so take responsibility of your life, you are responsible for your needs, your feelings and your expectations…you have to fulfil them and you cannot full fill them through others be it a relationship or not…
