So many times I meet people who have distressed relationship. Who have some differences with their husbands or wives. They fight over trivial issues and sometimes they are so trivial that makes me wonder if that should be the issue to end any relationship. Once I had a client who was complaining about his wife and said that she cant even give him a cup of tea when he comes back from office and I asked him in which book this commandment is written that the wife has to prepare a cup of tea for her husband or she has to take care of him and he was taken aback. I said if she did not do, then you prepare it for yourself and ask if she needs one too and he could not handle the fact. He reasoned me out and said then what’s the point of being into a relationship and this is the question I encounter most when someone comes to me who is emotionally distressed. People are emotionally distressed because of relationships, be it because of parents, siblings, spouse or friendship any relationship.
Let me clarify, relationship does not demand anything, it never has any commandment, everything which we expect and call it as need of the relationship is or own demand and need otherwise everyone wold expect same thing and every relationship would have looked same. Everyone shares different relation because everyone is different.
If you want to have a beautiful relationship with anyone, just let it be free. Do what you like without expecting in return and you will never be hurt and emotionally distressed. If someone wants to do something or not, it shall be a free will, not out of boundations. When someone expects from you, you feel you are binded and which burdens us, same this is with others also, if you expect, binds others and puts a heavy burdens on someones head which eventually erodes the beauty of the relation. So stop putting conditions and stop putting your demands as the demand of a relationship. Its a free world and everyone has a free will and whenever that is curbed, there would be an asphyxiation. Let everyone be free and then see how free you feel.
