Some times back a lady came and started crying. She said that her husband beats her daily and she is so helpless about that. They were married for 10 years and she had married him against her family. They did not have children and now he was seeing another lady too. She was working and he was not. Whenever he needed money, he would hit her and take money. I asked her why don’t you leave him? She said he is my husband. And what good he is doing as a husband? She had no answer. She kept taking it for another year and finally she left. She said that I could no longer take any beating. I should have heard it that time itself!
One girl who got married in a joint family tried her best adjusting with everyone. However, her elder sister in law did not appreciate this much. She felt that her value reduced after the new one had come in. For everything she was putting down the younger one and she kept tolerating. She decided not to, when she realized it was hurting her self esteem. Because every time she felt people were talking bad about her. She requested her husband to take an action and he asked her to be quiet as it was family. Finally, one day, it started happening to him also. Now, they both were suffering along. One day, he took a decision to leave. His mother tried stopping him and he just had to say one thing, if he had to live, he had to change the place.
In another situation, a gentleman was a soft target of his boss. His boss always taunted at him. He asked his boss why do you not like me so much. Boss laughed and said I just do not like to see you around. But I do not want you to leave also. I like to see you suffering. You remind me of my old friend who was always more successful than me. So by torturing you, I get a feeling of revenge. He was shocked and decided to leave but he needed a job and his boss was not ready to re;ease him with a good certificate and reference. Finally he took a strong decision and left the job without a new one. He started his own company and did pretty well after that.
Often out of love or some commitments, we keep taking what we should not. What holds us back we do not know. But we need to know, if something is making us feel we have no value, someone is demeaning us, someone is hurting our self respect, we have every right to walk out and change it and stay guilt free.
Do not stay with toxic people or in toxic situation or else it would just poison you or may damage you for whole life.
