We all go through own sets of problems and we all find that we have the maximum number of problems. However, we all have all kinds of problems and when we look at others problems we don’t know everything about that. Past, present, all the constraints involved and may be the future results. That’s why we feel others problems are smaller in front of us. We can’t solve anything until we know everything about that. So we can’t solve others problems, we may try to give help, but we can’t. Same way as we don’t understand others problems completely, others can’t understand ours and thus if we can’t solve our own problems, others can’t too. Few days back, one girl came to me who had a break up and other guy was laughing at her pain saying where does it matter we all have such things. It’s too small to be thinking about. Now for him it might be, maybe he has been through many breakups or may be for him his relationships don’t hold that much value in his life, I really can’t say because I did not discuss any time with him but for her it was her most important relation and she was unable to bear the pain. So don’t negate others pain first thing. Second thing, when you have a problem, instead of feeling depressed, think how can you resolve it, even if others offer solutions, they might irritate you, may be you have already tried them, may be they are no solution at all and then you would feel, if they don’t know why do they comment, then why do you expect them to solve, if you are sharing with them, it means you have been expecting them to solve it for you and when they can’t, you feel irritated. Why so? Think over what can be done, how can be done, what are the options available and have the courage as you are the only one who can solve so just gather up yourself.
