Stop Comparing
“Comparison leads to ego & acceptance leads to enlightenment.”
Very few people we meet are contented within themselves. Who do not compare themselves with anyone else. Once I was counselling in a restaurant and in the middle of the session the client got little defocused from what I was saying. He became more busy watching the other man who had just entered. I could feel that comparison which he was doing within himself. To help him in realizing what he was doing, i told him, isn’t that guy more handsome than you which shocked him completely and annoyed him. He gave me a stern look and said, mem you are insulting me, you should not do that. Then I told him, if he was doing same thing inside him, he was happy as he thought no one knew but when I compared him, he is feeling bad, why, just because I had been more vocal. He accepted his thoughts and asked me how he can get rid of this feeling of comparison. It is by accepting ourselves the way we are. Everyone is unique and complete individual. When we compare within ourselves, we feel no one else knows and when others compare us for same thing, we feel bad because we know the truth, but the fact is our mind always knows, even when we compare it inside or someone else is comparing outside. When someone else compares, we do not like, so our mind then also does not like when we compare within ourselves which we may not realise.
He has that, I do not have that, he is so rich, I am so poor, he got the bigger share, he said this to me, he has a life better than me, etc All are comparisons, and all the comparisons leave you with a feeling of lesser you, so you try to protect the created self image and then to boost your ego, you compare yourself with someone who you think is lesser than you…so in both ways, comparisons are feeding your ego. How do you stop that? It’s simple yet unachievable, simple because there is no rocket science in this, unachievable because you need to realise yourself at soul level for this. We all emerged from same light, so there is no difference between you and someone else, it’s the difference of perception only. We all are a part of each other and we all are a part of one Universal body.
If you are wearing new shoes, do you feel jealous of yourself, do your eyes feel bad after looking at new shoes..I guess no..then how can they feel bad when someone else is wearing new shoes? When there is no difference between you and him/her? Do you compare between your two hands or two shoes? Everything is alike, then where is the comparison? You compare and you keep getting embroiled in the vicious circle. It does not let you think outside the circle. You do not think of light at all and get further illusioned.
If you accept this simple truth of the Universe and creator, you will get rid of all the negativities and bring yourself closer to light. What is enlightenment? It is when you start moving closer to light and the illusion starts lifting up, so if you accept your truth and the truth of this existence that is we all look different but we all are same and everything and every being has same consciousness, we become enlightened. So stop comparing, instead accept yourself and accept the creator, become one with the existence by accepting. Dissolve your duality with the existence and you will be light yourself.
