When someone comes to me, who is in lots of pain because of small things happening around or is in busy reacting to things, I ask them to be an observer. To see the things from a third persons perspective. If something happens to a neighbour, we are sympathetic but we are not emotionally affected. We are affected if something has happened at our place. If there was a theft at neighbours place, we would be sympathetic at human level but we will be relaxed that it is not happening to me. Have you ever wondered why does it happen? Because for your neighbour you are an observer and that is why you are emotionally detached. Have you ever wondered why it is easy to suggest action when something is happening to someone else but we get panicked when same thing comes on us? Because in the first case we are observing and in the second case we are involved. So if you want to be emotionally detached, not to be affected then consider yourself as separate from the one who is living your life. For example, I can think whatever is happening is happening to Sheetal not to me and then I can just watch what all Sheetal is doing and thinking. Why she is doing what she is doing. Just detach yourself from own life and observe. Life becomes more fun and easy to understand.
