One couple came to me for counselling and wife said that her husband does not love her or does not love her enough. I asked her, why does she feel this way. She told me, her husband never gave her any greeting card or never said that he loves her. I understand the importance of expression of emotions, however, everyone has own way of expressing things. saying I love you is a verbal expression. Then I asked her husband, he told me, he tries to help her a lot, he tries to bring many things for her to see her smiling but he never finds her happy enough. It seems she never wants to understand how much he loves her. Most of the girls grow up with Cinderella or Mills and Boon Romance and thanks to media and movies, who have given a picture perfect love to dream about. While growing up we create a picture of love in our mind and we assume things would happen that way and when we encounter reality we are unable to cope up with the gap. We feel that we are not loved because we also have a tendency to look at whats not there instead of whats there so we end up ignoring what is being done. In the above mentioned case, the lady thought her husband does not love her and he felt its never enough for her. We expect a lot and we forget that we all want to express things own way. Do not look for a perfect love because that is perfect as per your thoughts, in reality everything is perfect. If its true love, which comes with own ups and down, just accept everything. Acceptance will make your life full of love, if you keep expecting, you will never be able to see the truth because then you would always gauge if this is what you want or not. Always remember, love does not have to be perfect, it just ahs to be true.
