Since the time we are born, we grow up with conditions. Our parents and everyone wants us to be something as per their choice. They want us to live as per their conditions. If you do this, then you are good, if do that you are not good. I am not saying that discipline is not good, it is must but should be given as a choice and why do we forget that kids learn what they see around. They model their grown ups and they follow same. If they find you doing something they would do same. If you are doing something and you are teaching something else, does not matter how hard you teach, they would learn what you have been doing. So if you want to teach them something, practice that instead of putting conditions because when this small child grows up he keeps living with those conditions. He is unable to accept himself. He keeps judging himself, as you had been judging him and he keeps finding faults inside. Outside world is the reflection of your inside world, outside world is a mirage, the real world is inside you and the faults which an individual finds in himself, finds in the outside world too and thinks everyone finds same faults in him. He seeks that acceptance from everyone to save his ego. But the truth is moment you stop judging yourself, you stop judging anyone else too. After that you dont care if someone else is judging you. A person who is conscious about his weight observes everyone for their weight and thinks everyone else also is judging him on same. Accept yourself the way you are, you are perfect and beautiful the way you are. The moment you accept yourself, you wont need anyone else’s acceptance, whole world will accept you as after that you will accept the whole world. Everything is mutual.
