One 20 year boy told me, he never had any physical encounter in life but he feels guilty of having intimacy feelings for stranger girls and he wants to get rid of them. I asked him, has he harmed anyone uptil now with these feelings or has he crossed anyone’s dignity uptil now, his reply was negative. Then i asked him, if he is in any relationship, where he feels he is emotionally cheating his partner by having such feelings and he said no. Then i explained him, he is young and its a natural process. We are told that such feelings are bad, so we dont want those feelings but every emotion we encounter is a natural state, if we consider it as a problem and we think it should not be there then we feel we are binded because we should get away from them. Another one came and told me that he is sad because of few things in his life and then i told him that what is the problem in that, it is his mental state so he is liek this. There are no emotions which are good or bad, they are our natural state, if you want freedom from them, accept them just teh way they are and be present in the moment. They would come and pass and then a new would come. However, if you term them as good ro bad then one or other emotion becomes a problem. When it is a problem, ofcourse you would try to get rid of them. If you want fredeom, accept everything and embrace it. If its yours, you dont need freedom from it.
