We all have an identity crisis at one point in life or maybe multiple times. We look for others’ approval. And then everyone comes and loads us with their judgment and we believe that. We believe that because we have never sat and thought about who we really are and who we can be. So my 6 years old said, Ma…I am a bad girl and she started crying. I stood stunned. From where was it coming? I told her, I think you are pretty amazing. Then the next day, I asked her, why did you say that? She told me that her cousin wanted her to say sorry and to get that apology, she told her, if she wouldn/t say sorry, she would be bad. She believed that she was bad and being bad is bad so she was crying.
So I asked her, what did she think? She sat and thought, she was pretty good because she took care of everyone and she was hardworking and she is one. Then where did it matter, what others say? Above that, also, what’s more, important here, how does she want to be? She sat and thought and gave me a few answers and started thinking and next day she told me, I am good and I am going to be further amazing because I know, I want to be further.
It reminded me of the story, where the girl went through a divorce and lost her confidence. She lost her job also. She felt that she did not deserve anything but then, she decided to pick herself up. She sat and thought about who she wanted to be. She saw herself in a place as someone where everyone respected her, everyone sought her opinion, she helped the poor and she was invited as a speaker in many forums and yes, that changed. She saw her new self and also, she had guys asking her out. In two years, she was, all that she saw for herself.
Do we have the courage to see the new self which we really desire? Go for it!
