She was married for 10 years, had two children, and was on the verge of divorce. She was tired of everyday fights and she felt that she was always at the receiving end. However, when it was discussed with her husband, he shared that when he married her, he felt that she wanted everything to be organized. He did not realize, it included him. When he married, he felt that being organized is a skill because it would keep the home clean. She would want him to do everything her way and he would feel suffocated. She would lie also to keep things the way she wanted. He lost trust in her. He started staying away from home. She felt that why everyone has a good relationship with her.
You ask the question and you get the answer. She happened to visit her friend’s house. She felt that her friend was very peaceful. But her home was a little cluttered. Somewhere there were toys and somewhere they were some bags. Her friend’s children were drawing doodles on the wall. She was trying to stop them but still, they laughed and ran. She laughed along and sat quietly. She wondered how was it possible. She asked her friend. Her friend smiled and said, that over the period of time, I have created this home and my relationship brick by brick. I was also a stickler. Then one day, I sat and thought about what was important. Is it my husband or the home? Can I afford to have an unorganized home, yes I can! Can I afford to lose him and it’s no. So I started working on myself. When he realized my efforts, he also started making some. We decided to support each other. It increased our trust in each other every day. It’s an everyday effort. I waited for him rather than getting angry at him, he made sure I smiled, when I was sad. And things kept growing. We made an effort for each other every day and we are still making.
And yes, it’s an everyday effort. keep working on it. Do not assume it will be gifted. Every beautiful thing has a lot of effort behind it.
