He was 60 years old and did not marry. He chose not to marry as he felt that it would be a lot of bickering and he always say his mom depressed and his father too depressed. His father always said that getting married is like a lot of boundation. He built a thought process that if he would marry he would lose his freedom. But when his friends got busy in their own lives and he also started losing his body strength to travel around, he wondered if he had taken the right decision. He had accumulated a lot of wealth because he could focus a lot on work rather than taking offs for family and his bosses also praised him saying he could manage so much and also he had no one behind to use that money. But now he started feeling he was coming back to an empty home and especially he knew he was hitting retirement. It would be soon, he would not even have an office to go to. He wanted to marry and have children but he was now scared that how would he raise children at this age even if he adopts and how would he find a compatible match at this age.
And his concerns were not wrong.
But my concern is that now a days I see a lot of kids talking about not to marry in future! It is their decision but where are we headed? To a world who is depressed and unhappy and what would happen with such kind of depression at mass level?
We used to have joint families (I am blessed to be in a family where we are living 4 generations together) and then many got trained that nuclear family is the way as it is a lot of interference, lack of freedom, fights and if you want to be happy and free you need to be in a nuclear set up. People started opting to shift out! And it looked peaceful but then we also lost many benefits. The kids were learning to have values, respect elders, commitment towards family, more responsible and also many things in the life style which we could not imagine. Also they learned to share things in thick and thin. Similarly, there are countless benefits of being in a committed family and raising children which if are not explained properly, and only a struggling part is told, the kids will take a decision to not marry et all. But then they will be lonely in the future. They would lose out the fun of life.
So train your next generation. Train them to be happy with all the adjustments and how beautiful it is to have a partner.
