He was a driver. He used to drive taxis to far locations. He was traveling almost 26 days a month as this was his profession. He got married, 20 years ago and had two beautiful children. His wife had two affairs. He wondered why she got into an affair after 15 years of marriage and now again?
Well, when we discussed it, I realized, he did not express his love when he was away for 26 days. When he came back home, he never appreciated her efforts of managing the home and children alone and also never made an effort in the relationship, which he would have, before getting married. His straight question was, do we still need all that even after 20 years of marriage? And the answer is yes! Why not? A lady has been staying alone for days and can see her husband once a month, and she doesn’t even deserve to hear that her husband loves her? If she gets self-doubt after that, then what’s the big deal? If she starts falling for someone, who appreciates her, and expresses his care every day, the human mind is fickle, she is bound to fall. I am not justifying her actions. But she needs love and, yes, we all have to nurture our relationship always. We cannot say, it has been 20years or 30 years, why do we need to express it now?
Well, the thing is, it’s about how we feel, and we express what we feel. Were we expressing love back then, because we needed it, or we felt it? And at that time if it was coming as natural, then, we do not have that love and that’s why we are not expressing it? If there is no love then the relationship has already suffered and people will wander around in search of love. If someone is not wandering around, then, they will become very negative and stay depressed.
We all need to keep nurturing that love inside us and in our relationships every day. It brings happiness and contentment. We need to make our relationship a priority too.
