He loved her a lot, but did not trust her. Every time, she would touch her mobile phone, he would look at her like she had done some crime. He would try to check it. If she stepped out, he would ask many questions. Sometimes, she even found him chasing her. She was not doing anything wrong, but living under a scanner constantly was wearing her out. She wondered why he did not trust her as she never gave him a reason. She could no longer live with all that and got separated. She wanted peace of mind.
They both worked in good positions with very big companies. They both earned well. They both came from a good financial background. However, she was arrogant about what she had, and he had a humble approach. She would put him down in front of his friends and other family members also. She would crack jokes about him. In private, also, she always tried showing him down to an extent that he could not earn enough as she had to work. Also, he was not a man enough, that’s why a woman was earning equal to him. He tried sorting it out with love, but everything failed. He could not take every day humiliation. And finally filed for a divorce.
They had an arranged marriage. They both respected and loved each other. After 40 years of marriage, when asked the secret, they shared that we never lost each other’s respect. Even when we fought, we maintained that respect. That gave us a confidence also in each other. In front of others and in private, we always respected each other, each other’s emotions, decisions, what the other person wants and thinks, we always respcetd that. How beautiful!
When young couples come to me and seek advice before getting married, I always tell them the same thing. Without love, no relationship can survive. But without respect and trust also. So always trust your partner and respect your partner. If any relationship does not have either of them, I am never in favor of that relationship personally. Because that relationship eventually brings a lot of negativity. So along with love, respect your partner, trust your partner. That would lay the foundation of a happy, loving and life time relationship.
