They were on the verge of divorce. The gentleman did not want the divorce, but it appeared that he was not ready to bend a little. This was making the lady not to bend either and they were both holding their egos high. So I asked them, what kind of life you would want to have? They both sat for a while and wondered and did not have an answer. What type of life you would want to have for your children? In one voice they said that we want them to be happy. And how they will be? What do you mean by their happiness? It means they are happily married, have a settled life and they are safe and healthy. But are your children feeling that way? So they called up their children and the children looked at them and said we do not want to ever get married again. We look at you and we wonder if this is how it is going to be? Then the other one said, if we would not create a family, why do we have to earn so much. So i guess, things can keep going the way they are going right now. Parents were shocked. So I asked them, how do you envision your life? Courts, living lonely, desperate that some opposite sex talks to you, feeling lonely in some social gathering? I guess not. But the point is, mental peace is above all. And you need to see things the way they are rather than in your mind.
So the lady said, he never even bothers to ask me for a glass of water and she started crying. The gentleman said that it is not my job. Then what is your job? I am bringing home money! And is that enough? If everything is given in your hands, will you be able to manage everything with the same money? What about emotions and mental needs? Have you tried fulfilling those? You want to have a fulfilling life but you are not ready to give in the relationship? You are holding your ego high thinking, I am a man. So what shall I do?
Learn to give without expectations. learn to give without looking at what you are giving. What you are expecting is already coming to you. But when you lower down your expectations, the flower of the relationships gets an opportunity to bloom. He realized and decided to work upon his marriage. It took him one year because he had never seen a man doing things for his wife but he did. He wanted his children to be happy and he wanted a better life. But he realized, he was also becoming happier and peaceful. He felt that he had found a new friend too rather than a lady who was just serving him. He could talk to her for hours and listen to her too. He felt the rewards but he had to learn to give first.
