At the age of 65, he shared that he never had a home. His mother was an abusive parent and he was always afraid of going back home. When he got married, he could never have a stable relationship with his parents.
At the age of 70, they felt that, they were few things kept at home and they were not needed in their son’s family. They felt homeless.
He was always afraid of going back home and have food. His wife always taunted him saying, you care only about your food. She did not like cooking and she always taunted him that she had to make one for him. So many times, he tried eating outside and so many times he would not eat at all. He wondered if he needed that place just to sleep.
She got married into a big joint family. She was always working and still she heard that she was never good enough. Even a child could come and tell her she not doing her job properly. She wondered if she was in a job then where was her salary. If she felt that it was her home? No, it was not. She wanted to move out with her husband and the reason she gave was, I want to have a home. Not just a place to sleep.
These are all very common scenarios. We see them so many times. From the parent’s perspective, partner’s perspective or child’s perspective. We may have our way but we can never create a home this way. The home is where you want to come back. The home is where everyone feels safe and loved. Where you want to forget all your challenges and sleep without any fear. Home is where you feel it’s mine.
So create a home. Create a loving environment for everyone.
