Someone contacted me about her shopping habits. She shared that she was going through some financial troubles but she was unable to control her habit of shopping on a whim. So many times she would find out that she already had that in her cupboard.
One of the lady contacted that she was having daily argument with her husband. She had been asking her husband to move to a bigger house. I asked her why she wanted to move to a bigger house and with lots of proding she accepted that it’s because rest of the people in her circle live in a bigger house. Was she uncomfortable in her own home and no. It was small but cosy 2 bed room flat and they were a family of three. One child and husband and wife.
He was very unhappy with his business as he felt that he could make it big. What did he mean by making it big? he accepted that with that he meant the way his friends have achieved. And many have not achieved also. It depends on with whom are we comparing.
Yes, we can always compare with someone who has more and feel bad or we can set it as a next goal in life. But if we start feeling bad about the life we have, that is not fair. To lose mental peace over that is not fair. so what shall we do?
We need to start looking at what we already have. We need to start actually making a list of what we already have. We need to start retraining our mind. These people started doing that. When they were telling what they did not have, they kept feeling bad. When they realized what they already have, things became peaceful. With a peaceful mind, we are able to achieve much more.
Be grateful, be peaceful, be happy!
