Q: Why are relationships failing these days?
There could be many reasons.
- People feel they have done enough, and they cannot do anymore. But the reality is we all need to continue doing whatever we can for the relationship.
- They expect the relationship to be something and when it does not turn out that way, it fails. We all need to know that what we have expected is our thought process. But what the other person is expecting is different. We all need to enter into relationship with a neutral mindset. Otherwise, we feel, that we are more than we could do.
- We compare our relationships and life situations with other. We forget everything is in a package.
- Lack of patience and flexibility. We all shall be ready to be flexible and change everything in the relationship. It is not about changing who we are. It is about accepting a better part of life. I remember once a girl said that before getting married, she was a free bird, and she could go anywhere. She felt caged. But the reality is she was not caged. She was also enjoying companionship and love which she did not have before marriage. Everything comes in a package. We shall be ready to accept the change. Similarly, a boy’s family shall accept that he has to give time to his wife too, and they also need to accept that there is a new member in the family and there will be a space adjustment for everyone.
- In the difficult times, people tend to opt for easy way out. But the fact is, those are the times to strengthen the root of the family. When the wife is pregnant, the husband may have an affair. The husband is away for a long time, the wife has an affair. There is a financial crunch and the partner walks out. No, everything gets solved. We all need to work harder at that time.
Q: IS financial independence the reason of failing relationships?
Never. It is the lack of acceptance of changing roles and for women also, need to understand, gender equality does not mean the roles and responsibilities have changed much. That shall not become a reason to get away from the responsibilities. Both the partners shall work together to share the responsibilities.
