He shared that he really wanted a big house for his family and it would make him really happy if he had one. I asked what if he did not get one and what makes you sure that you would be forever happy after that? He did not have an answer.
She said that she really wanted to have a boy (child) and it would make her family really happy if she had one. What if you would get a girl? Would you be sad and the answer was a really sad face. But what if the girl loves you so much and gives you all the happiness, would it still make you unhappy?
Every day, she struggled to keep her family happy. She took care of their needs and did everything for them. She wondered when would she get time for herself and be peaceful and happy. I asked her, may be that day would be after 5 years, when your kids are grown up and then what makes you think you would be happier? What if you would miss their hugs and all the innocent things they are doing? What if you would crave for something more? And what if you would feel old and tired at that time?
He wanted to have at least one million dollars in his bank account. He shared that he would be really happy, if he had that kind of back up. And the question was, what makes you think, you would be happy after that? That kind of money would come with lots of hard work and let’s say a big business, etc. What if at that time, you have bigger responsibilities to manage and you start feeling less peaceful and you miss what you have right now?
If we decide our happiness is dependent on something then we have already told our minds that we are unhappy right now. And our mind will start making us feel unhappy right now. And what ever we are we attract that more around us and that means we start attracting more unhappiness. I am not saying, we shall not have goals, or we shall not ask for things. We must ask for things, but we shall not take a decision that our happiness depends on achieving them. Happiness is the journey and we must travel this journey right now. It is not the destination.
So what shall we do?
Take a decision to be happy. Be grateful right now for everything you have. Be peaceful about everything right now. let go of what is bothering you. Forgive everyone, who has hurt you and see the change coming into your life. If you can be happy now, you will be happy always.
