One lady called up and she was crying very badly. I asked her for the reason. She said that lately she has been feeling what about me in this marriage. I have been taking care of everyone for last five years. I have two children. I left my career. BUt what about me?
I asked her few question:
- What about your husband?
- Did he want to do something else in life and ended up doing all this? Did he want to do business but he is stuck in the job because of the financial commitment?
- What about his parents? Did they have ambition to travel but they help you in buying a home?
Yes, everyone had something to do but to make this unit successful, everyone sacrificed one or other thing. I am not saying you are selfish. We can get these thoughts. Especially in today’s environment where everyone is talking about women liberation or feminism. I am not against women liberalisation. But we need to understand. Few things are decided by nature. And we need to follow that path. For example, a mother can only give birth and she only can nurture the baby. Gender equality is a different things. But we have to accept our roles with love. When we start thinking of what about me, this statement itself creates lots of negativity.
In a relationship, which consists of two people, we cannot think individually. It is about what we are doing together. How we are creating together. How we are managing together.
Stop spoiling your relationship by thinking individually. Start doing things together. Start creating things together. You will be happier. Ofcourse, happiness is decided by you. But then do not choose unhappiness.
