One lady called up. She was separated from her husband. She said that she was always very angry. I asked her, how can I help you? She started crying and shared that she was very angry then also and that is the reason, she had many fights with her husband. On every small thing he said, she lost her temper. On everything, their fights went out of control. Still, I did not know, how could I help her? It was easy to tell her to stop being angry or stop shouting, apologize to your husband, etc. She already knew she had done something wrong. She said that I want to learn how to be peaceful. Now, I have the answer.
LEt’s take an example now, where you felt angry and you both had an argument. He came home, brought a friend without informing her. They both had dinner and after that her husband went for a walk. She shared that she was angry because of that. Ok, why were you angry? She did not know. So you were angry that he brought a friend or you were angry that he brought a friend without informing you or you were angry that he spent sometime with his friend or he went for a walk after that or you were angry because you felt left out? She was angry because she was not being informed and she had to cook everything. Let’s say, she hadn’t planned. Things happen everyday and we need to find our peace amidst that. It’s like once a ship is inside the water it has to learn to sail in all types of situations. It cannot stop and say, it was bad. So we need to learn to find our peace in everyday’s situation. So how could you have handled that situation peacefully?
Things start happening differently when we change what we are telling to our mind. If you told your mind, how could he bring a friend home without informing me, it triggers your ego and you get angry. But when you change the response, it is ok. HE can be with his friend and his friends are welcomed. I am glad, my husband had nice time. You will not get angry. For everything you need to start watching what you are telling to your mind.
Most importantly. Let’s take an example from your kitchen. If you want to cook, Matar Paneer, what ingredients would you take? She thought for a while and shared all. What if you do not take matar and paneer. Instead of that, you take daal and cabbage? Would you ever get what you desired? No! So whatever we need to be served, we need to add those ingredients. Similarly, whatever we need to be served from mind, we need to add those ingredients. We are adding anger and we want to be served peace. We need to start adding peace, so that peace can be served. Start choosing your state of mind.
