She got married into a joint family and she was really dedicated to her family. She worked day and night but those issues also prevailed. Where most of the people are finding faults, but she kept ignoring. However, how long we can ignore mentally, I wonder. After five years, she broke down and the reverse started happening. She became very aggressive. She started firing back. Everyone wanted to stay away from her. People were scared of her. When asked, she always said one thing, all these years, I never took care of myself. I should have given some time to myself also. All the time I gave it to others and in return, I received some damaging things.
at the age of 28, his father was hospitalised. His business came to a halt but expenses shot up. That also included his father’s medical expenses. He kept working hard, he supported everyone in the family, his brother, his sister, mother, everyone. In the meanwhile his brother completed his education and he helped him in starting own business. His sister completed her education and got married. However, no one wondered, he also needed something. He did everything even cooked for the family but when he needed, no one even offered a glass of water. After 6 years, his father died. He really loved his father and he did everything he could for six years. But after that he got time to think about himself and he shifted out. Everyone wondered why he shifted out. He simply said that I need time for myself, if I really want to survive now.
I am not saying, we need to take extreme steps but while working for others, we also need to start taking out for self, we need to create a balance so that the extreme situation does not come. We need to take out time every day, to understand our own emotions, we need to take out time to get rid of negativity, we need to accept when we need help, We also need to work on taking care of our own needs. If we need to share anything, we must. We need to take appropriate actions, before its too late or before it causes permanent damage to the relationships.
