Few days back someone wanted to discuss about his son. Their son was in teenage and was always arguing. They did not know how to handle it.
While talking to the son few facts came out:
1 There was a very disciplined environment at home all his life and now he did not want so many boundations on him.
2. He felt that he had to stand against everyone so that he could live his life his way.
3. He was even ready to leave home.
4. He did not trust anyone as he felt everyone just suppressed him.
5. He felt no one loved him!
When he mentioned last thing, it was clear that why everything was happening like this. It came out last but it came out from his core. The only solution to this was love and lot of love. Often teenage children get into some unwanted activities like drugs or involving in antisocial acts etc to express their freedom and emotions. But in this case he was just fighting with the family.
When I discussed with their parents, their first reaction was we love him and we want best for him but later on they started seeing things from his perspective. If he scored something in class, they said he could do better. If he brought a friend home, they told him that he was wasting his time. If he enrolled in some class, he was wasting money. There was no value of the things which he loved. They realized it. But how to solve it?
The gentleman did the bravest of the things. He called up his son, accepted his mistakes in front of him and asked for one last chance to create a great relationship. It took them one year where he really stood by his son, understood him, appreciated him the way he was rather than what he could be as per him!
Not only in this case, in every situation the only hope is love. Heal with love. Solve with love.
